May 30th, 2017


You are afraid to approach women because you’re afraid to fail. Fear cannot
be an option or you will by default fail. You’re either in the game or you’re
not. Anti up or don’t play. But remember, if you don’t play, it is just plain
impossible to win. If she shoots you down, pick yourself up, dust yourself
off and try again, probably best with someone else, unless you don’t mind
landing in the dust.

About 9 out of 10 people are scared of conflict just like you. Even women
are scared of conflict and have fear. While you might be afraid she’ll reject
you, did it ever occur to you that she is worried that no one might even
bother to ask or approach her? Well, that is also a fact. So if you’re in the
game you have a 90% chance that the woman you are approaching is dealing
with her own conflict and fear, none of which has anything to do with you.
And why are women drawn to the stronger of two guys? Because the
stronger the guy, the greater his ability to reduce her personal anxiety.
Consider this:
What is likely to happen if you ask a woman out?
What are the chances she will say no?
What are the chances she will say yes?
You do the math. Will you survive? Of course you will.
What are the chances she will say yes if you never ask?
I’ll do the math. You will lose 100% of the time. The game is over!


Think about it, she has no idea who you are and what kind of guy you are...
she does not know that you won't get pissed off and start calling her ugly
and other names if she rejects you... so she'll avoid that by all means. How
will she avoid that? By either telling you she has a boyfriend or giving you a
fake number... and that is the WORST case scenario.
Chances are she'll give you a shot just because you had to balls to approach
her... even if you stutter the whole time and start sweating like a pig. It's

Now think about this: If you approach a woman and she is so nervous that
she makes every mistake in the book... forgets what to say, doesn't look you
in the eye, and just overall makes a complete fool out of herself... would you
forget about her and just walk away even though she is hot? Hell freakin’ no
you wouldn't! So why would a woman reject you just for making a few
mistakes if she thinks your attractive? She won't, period.
It's our job as men to choose which women to approach; it's our job to get
everything started. If you think that's hard then think about a woman's job...
They have to compete will all the other women out there to get attention.
They obsessively worry whether they’re measuring up. All for what? So
someone will want to make it with her, settle down with her. So she can
make the babies! I don't know about you but I'd rather get rejected by every
woman on earth than have a nine pound kid pop out my ass.

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